Our modern society views romantic relationships in many ways that it never has before. Men and women ‘collect’ partners. Polyamourism or ‘ethical non-monogamy’ (ENM) has become the new norm with this generation (Millennials, Y, Z). This ideology directly conflicts with the more traditional views of our elders since the beginning of time.
20th Century Shifts
- Focus shifted from procreation and property to companionship and love.
- No-fault divorce laws began in the 1960s (starting in California in 1969), allowing couples to divorce without proving wrongdoing.
- Same-sex relationships began to be decriminalized and gradually recognized in some legal contexts by the 1990s.
It seems everyone is at a different place, many with real baggage, but no real connections being made. Should we give up?
No. Take ownership of your failures, because excuses are like grasses… why should I let your dog shit in my yard if you’re just going to leave it there act like it was mine?
🔄 1. Legal Changes: Marriage as a Contract Between Equals
🌟 No-Fault Divorce (1969 onward)
- California was first in 1969; other states followed.
- Before this, you had to prove fault (adultery, abuse, abandonment) to get a divorce.
- After 1969, people could dissolve a marriage due to “irreconcilable differences,” even if both parties did nothing wrong.
🔍 Impact: This redefined marriage as a voluntary, emotional union, not a rigid, lifelong duty. If love or companionship failed, legal recourse was available.
Our grandparents, who believed in the institution of marriage have been let down. Boomers, through their own infidelity have provided a broken system of lies, along with their broken vows and families. Lies that they ever loved at all. If they had not lied, they would not be guilty of sin. However as it is, this generation is “unclean!”
I’m seeking someone whose talent will compliment mine.
Someone who is not just beautiful in appearance, but…
Someone who knows who they are. And values the principles of virtue.
Someone who wants a headstrong, professional partner.
Someone who wants a passionate, romantic partner.